You’re saying to yourself, “I’ve finally picked the right vibrator for my wife!” Congratulations!  It’s a pretty big step in both of your sex lives, but if you’ve never used one with a woman before, you might need a little advice on what to do. The first thing you should know is what NOT to do – which is turn it on and immediately insert it into her vagina – when your wife wants to use a vibrator, this isn’t what she does. That will not be sexy and it will not feel good. Now that you know not to do that, let’s focus on how to do it right.

Getting Started with a Vibrator

Start out by gently caressing your wife with the vibrator – it doesn’t necessarily need to be turned on at first either. Some women enjoy having their nipples stimulated. If your wife is one of them, try gently massaging around her nipples with the vibrator for a pleasurable sensation. Not all women like the sensation of vibrations on their nipples, so pay attention to how she responds to this.

Slowly move down her body with it – tease the inside of her thighs, slowly moving across her body. What you do next depends on the type of vibrator you have. If it’s a clitoral vibrator, place it gently on her clitoris and carefully massage the area in a circular (or any) motion. You’ll be able to tell by her reaction when you find the right places – concentrate on those. Most vibrators have varying levels of vibrations; you can adjust these with a dial or button to further intensify her experience. Your wife will absolutely love this, and you’ll definitely know it when she reaches orgasm.

Tip: slowly increase the speed of the vibrations. Going too quickly can throw her off and now allow her to enjoy the stimulation.

If you’re using a g-spot vibrator, insert it slowly and gently – plenty of lubrication helps with this. Slide it in and out, just as you would with your penis during lovemaking. Don’t go too fast – unless she tells you to! The curved end of the vibrator will massage her g-spot, which you can accompany with some manual clitoral stimulation as well. Once again, you’ll know when you’ve found the right spot, and she’ll keep on letting you know until she reaches orgasm.

There are many different kinds of vibrators, far too many for us to explain the specifics for each one.

Tips for using a vibrator with your wife.

  • Go slowly! Nobody’s in a hurry, just take your time.
  • Relax. You both want to orgasm, you both probably will.
  • Be gentle with her clitorous. The female clit is very sensitive, the vibrator you have may not feel very powerful to you… to her clit, it is very powerful and the sensations are incredible.
  • Pay attention to your wife’s expressions. You probably know her well, better than most people, use that to your advantage and infer what she wants.
  • Be yourself. The vibrator should be a natural extension of your self, embrace the vibrator.
  • Vibrators are a romantic and sexy addition to the bedroom, treat them as such. Light some candles, find fresh flowers, pick up strawberries; make the mood sexy and fun!
  • When she orgasms, she may become very sensitive. Don’t push her further, it will not be pleasurable for her.
  • Let your wife guide you.
  • Don’t be shy. This is completely normal, over 60% of American couple’s use sex toys on a regular basis.

Maybe your wife already likes to use a vibrator – and you might be intimidated to take the wheel, so to speak. If she enjoys pleasuring herself with sex toys, she will love it even more when you do it. Vibrators are a great way to take your sex life to the next level. If your wife is already experienced with them, allow her to guide you in the direction of her most pleasurable areas.

Nothing beats the real thing.

After you’ve seen the stunning orgasm a vibrator produces, you might ask yourself, “what if my wife gets addicted to a vibrator?” Not to worry – nothing you can do with a partner is ever sexier when she does it alone. She will appreciate you more if you learn to use sex toys with her, and soon they can become a regular part of your intimate adventures. Of course, nothing beats the “real” thing – and don’t forget it!

You’re showing her that you care, and ultimately you will reap the rewards of sharing more diverse and intimate experiences together.

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